I learnt a long time ago that you can't change someone who doesn't want to be changed.

Maybe if we all learnt to accept the things we can't change and focus on the things we can change, we might all be a bit less stressed and have less anxiety.

Eckhart Tolle says it perfectly:

"When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness."

Complaining really is a waste of our energy and time, I know sometimes it makes us feel better and we shouldn't feel bad about complaining to get things off our chest.  It's when it becomes chronic complaining is when it is a problem.  I'm sure there are better things to do with our energy than complain.  Isn't it more important for us to put our energy towards changing the situation the way we can and accepting what we can't rather than letting it make us suffer for longer than necessary?

Think about any situation you experienced with another person that bought on frustration, anger, stress or anxiety, was it because you didn’t like how THEY were acting, how THEY were thinking, what THEY were saying, how THEY were treating you?  Were all those emotions bought on because you wanted to change their thoughts and actions?  Did you feel like it was your duty to do this in order to make yourself feel better?

If we take away that belief that it is our responsibility to change that person.  Relieving that feeling of responsibility and desperation will take a massive weight off your shoulders.  Just think how much more peaceful you would feel?

How someone else is acting is a reflection of how they feel about themselves, they are the ones with their own issues they don't know how to deal with.  People only do their best that they know how to do at that point of time, if they knew better, they would do better.  For example if someone is being nasty towards you, it could be because they are unhappy in their own lives and suffering with past issues they haven't dealt with yet.  It isn't necessarily to do with how they feel about you; it's to do with how they feel about themselves.

If there is something you can't change, it makes sense to just accept it.  If it's accepted it's like our inner self no longer feels the responsibility to change it or complain about it.  Our energy is no longer taken up by it, we can move on to other happier more productive things.

If there is an aspect of your life you are unhappy with and that you don't have control over, evaluate what you can change about it.  It might be the entire situation, it might be one part of it, there might be nothing you can do about it and that is when acceptance is needed.

Sometimes situations we are in are purely based on our decisions and we can change it by just making another decision.  Sometimes we can't change anything about it and that's when we have to:

  • Change perspectives
  • Change attitudes
  • Change beliefs
  • Change habits

and ACCEPT other peoples

  • Perspectives
  • Attitudes
  • Beliefs
  • Habits

If these problems are being caused by a close loved one it is understandably hard to just accept them and the actions they choose especially if you can see what they are doing is only hurting them self.  If we accept them we then hold no ill feelings towards them and that would make them feel more open and comfortable in the future to come to you for help when they are ready.  

They say that if you have no expectations you won't be disappointed.  The core to that is really just accepting whatever situation or result that is out of your control because if you accept it you no longer feel the need to change it.  Knowing this and putting it into practice sets you free.

Time to accept people and situations that are out of our control and set ourselves free!

The EVAH Organics team


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